​Secure Self Intervention

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A guided, sensory‑based practice to cultivate an internal sense of safety and steadiness. Build a vivid image of your Secure Self, embody it, and apply it to real‑life situations for regulation and clarity.

• Define Secure Self qualities across the five senses.

• Practice stepping into that state and applying it during challenges.

• Receive attachment reassurances such as: “I see you. I hear you. I’ve got your back. We will do this together.”

• Use attachment reassurances to anchor safety (e.g., “I see you. I’m here.”).

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Attachment Agreement Form

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Use this worksheet to explore the agreements you formed with yourself in response to key incidents and relationships. You will reflect on safety, trust, intimacy, connection, kindness, and responsibility, and consider the benefits and costs of carrying these agreements forward. The final step invites your Secure Selfto offer a balanced perspective.

• Identify what you told yourself about the incident, yourself, and others.

• Map how those agreements influence your choices today.

• Invite your Secure Self’s input on healthier ways forward.

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Attachment Meanings Form

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This companion form helps you examine the meanings you made about yourself and others after significant events. You will compare what the incident meant thenwith what it means now, and assess how those conclusions shape your present.

• Clarify the meanings attached to self, parents/caregivers, and others.

• Review effects on safety, trust, intimacy, connection, and responsibility.

• Re‑author meanings using guidance from your Secure Self.

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